If all you wanted was love
Why would you use me up,
Cut me down, build a boat, and sail away.
When all I wanted to be was your giving tree,
Settle down, build a home, and make you happy.
The world is full of give and take.
We do so much for others, and especially for those we care about. We give of ourselves at work, and at home. We send out into the world a part of ourselves throughout each and every day, whether we intend to or not. And after we’ve given everything we have in us, sometimes we forget to care for ourselves.
Self care isn’t just for the sick and hurting. Everyone could benefit from some quality time taking care of the most important person in the world: ourselves. After all, if we aren’t at our best, how can we give our best?
Every day take one moment for yourself. Wherever you are, and whatever you’re doing, take a moment to breathe in deep and then let it all out. One long deep breath just for you.
Learn to say no. Sometimes it’s hard, especially when we really want to be saying yes. But it’s important to know our own limits, and to stop before we hit them. Remember that you don’t have to give all that you’ve got just because it’s asked of you.
Be your own biggest advocate. Stand up for yourself, and speak out when you’re being pushed too hard. Not everyone will understand, especially when each of our limits will vary, but being the voice for your own well being is empowering.
Never underestimate the power of a spa day. Whether you visit a local spa, or create a spa at home, schedule some time for self pampering. It’s amazing how transformed we can be after a good foot soak, face mask, manicure, or massage.
Just remember, give all you want, but keep a little for yourself. You’re worth it.
Lyrics courtesy of the Plain White T’s, The Giving Tree.