Ask Away Friday Vol. 8

Holy Moly it’s August already!

Today my awesome kiddo arrives, so while I’m out having lunch with him and my mom, here’s another round of Ask Away Friday for you!

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This week I swapped with one of our awesome Ask Away Friday hosts, the lovely Tiffany aka Mrs. Tee from MrsTeeLoveLifeLaughter. Mrs. Tee is the new age Mrs. Brady, with her husband and their six kiddos ranging from college age to toddler. She writes about her family, love, her life, and all kinds of laughter and happiness. Be sure to check out her site to see her answers to today’s swap. You should also follow her on Instagram so you can check out all her photos from her recent trip to Disney!

And now, on to Tiffany’s questions for me!

1. In your post I Don’t Listen To Me, you talk about how easy it can be to encourage support and give advice to others but, in turn, so hard to do the same for yourself. I feel the same way at times when I find myself giving advice that I need to apply to my own situations.
Since writing this post, how have you made steps to get better at encouraging and supporting yourself the same way you do those around you?

I think the biggest step I’ve made is changing how I talk to myself. I think I had trained myself to think (at least subconsciously) that I wasn’t worthy of the same kindness I offered to others. So while I knew I needed to be kinder to myself, I had years of negativity telling me I didn’t deserve it. (Does that make sense?) So now I make a conscious effort to tell myself that I’m worth taking care of, and that makes it a little easier to be kind to myself.

2. Your tag line is “my path to crazy”… Can you explain what that means to you?

I’ve always viewed my life as some form of chaos. Life with chronic illness isn’t any less crazy, in fact, there are days I feel my life now is more nuts than life when my son was a toddler! I chose that as my tagline, and my screen name/title of Becomin Neurotic, because there are times I truly feel like I’m losing my mind. I’m learning to embrace it, though, this craziness. And wouldn’t you know it, life is slightly calmer when you stop fighting for all the control?

3. Congratulations in your engagement!!! What would you want in your dream wedding if money was not an issue?

Thank you!! I think if money weren’t an issue, we’d still have something similar to what we’re doing, which is a small party with those we love. If money weren’t an issue, though, I’d be able to fly out friends from Florida and Texas and Louisiana to celebrate with us.

4. Where is your perfect destination for a honeymoon (again money doesn’t matter)?

Oh boy! Well, I’d love something silly, like Disneyworld, since neither of us have been and I really want to see the Harry Potter world! Or maybe something romantic like a trip around Europe where we could see castles, eat all sorts of delicacies, and kiss in Italy.

5. It’s a cold, chilly day…what is your favorite thing to do (read, blog, movies, etc)?

I absolutely love curling up with a cup of hot tea and a good book on chilly days. If my fiance is home, I prefer snuggling while watching a movie and sharing popcorn.

6. Do you prefer coffee, tea, soda, or water?

Tea, all day. And if it’s warmer than winter? Sweet tea. (I’m sure some of my genes are southern.)

7. When you’re at a low point, what is the one thing that can always lift you up?

My fiance. His love is so completely unconditional, it’s almost overwhelming. On the lowest days, he still tells me I’m beautiful, that I’m his dream come true. I may not always feel beautiful, but to see the love and honesty in his eyes, it’s hard to deny how he sees me. And that kind of love is pretty powerful, even against the darkest depression and the worst pain.

Also, my doggy can always make me smile :)

8. What’s your favorite movie?

It’s always a been a tie between Top Gun and Dirty Dancing. Because I’m a sucker for cheesy lines and eighties love stories.

“Maverick, take me to bed or lose me forever.” “I carried a watermelon.”

9. If you could be a guest star on any TV show which would it be? Why?

Well, if I also magically gained acting abilities, I’d love to be on Once Upon A Time or in the new series Outlander. Why? Because I still believe in fairy tales, and I want to meet Jamie and Claire.

10. You have $1000 to spend anyway you want…how would you spend it?

Well the sensible side of me says to spend it on bills. But truly? I’d want to take an honest to goodness vacation. In the five years we’ve been together, my fiance and I’ve never had a chance to fly away together. I figure $1000 would be enough to maybe go to Disney or visit loved ones in Southern California, Florida, Minnesota, or Texas.

Wow! Mrs. Tee sure had some thinkers! Don’t forget to hop on over to her site to see her answers to my questions for her. And y’all have yourselves a wonderful weekend! Me? It’s my birthday weekend, so I’m going bowling with my guys and a few of our loved ones, followed by dinner at my favorite pizza joint. Woohoo!

I Can’t Make Her Understand

What’s new?

Well, on Monday I got to have a colonoscopy and endoscopy to try to determine what’s behind the ongoing gastro issues I’ve been having. While the prep was just as horrible as everyone told me it would be, the doctor says I did wonderfully and there were no issues that required immediate action during the procedure. We should have the results of the biopsies within a week, and then we’ll hopefully have a plan of action.

I had a revelation while dealing with this whole process, though.

My mother will never understand.

While I don’t like to make my health front and center with my family, because it’s ALWAYS a sore topic, I felt it was important my mom know what was going on because we were trying to arrange a time for her to bring my son to us. Since my mom has had this procedure done, I figured she’d be sympathetic, or at least understanding.

I was wrong.

I planned ahead and told everyone I would be unavailable most of the weekend, as I knew I’d be doing the prep for the procedure. I don’t know about you, but I prefer to NOT talk to people from my bathroom. Call it manners, or something. And yet, my mother called repeatedly, and when I did answer, she was annoyed when I explained why I couldn’t talk.

On Monday, she called and asked if I had talked to my sister. I said I had not, as I’d been a little busy dealing with my own stuff. She again brushed it off like the procedure was no big deal. I told her I was leaving for the hospital then, and we hung up. She then called back right as I was getting checked in. I stared at my fiance in shock. What was she not getting about this?

As I had promised, I sent out texts to my mom, my dad, and a few close friends when I was released to let them know I was okay and heading home to rest. My dad (whom my mom swears is a horrible person who can’t possibly love me) replied immediately asking if there was anything he could do and thanking Scotty for taking such good care of me. Close friends responded sending their love and prayers. My mom?

She replied almost two hours later, “I’m glad you survived.”

I have never been so angry.

Why was she being so nonchalant about this all? While I realize the procedure is fairly routine, it was still scary for me. It’s also a part of the bigger picture of my overall health. Things have not been well so far this year, and this test was just another in a stream of diagnostics in an effort to find the best possible treatment plan for ALL of my autoimmune disorders.

I spent most of Monday evening in tears, frustrated and angry. I debated calling my mom to explain how she’d hurt my feelings. I vented on Twitter and finally begged my fiance for help. How should I handle this?

And Scotty, in his infinite wisdom, reminded me of something my therapist had recently told me.

While my mom is in recovery for her alcoholism, it doesn’t mean her personality is going to miraculously change. She will still be the same narcissist who doesn’t think anyone’s problems are as crucial and important as her own.

She will still be the mom who can’t face the fact that I am truly sick, that this isn’t something I’ve brought on myself, and that I’m not just making it all up.

This doesn’t mean that my feelings aren’t still hurt, it just means that I see the futility of trying to talk to her about it. Since she doesn’t believe it’s real, she won’t understand why I’m making a scene.

It takes energy to put up a fight. Is it really worth my spoons to keep trying to convince her to see life from my point of view?

The short answer? Nope.

So I journaled my feelings and let it go. I accepted the love that was pouring forth from Scotty, my father, and my close friends. I curled up with my dog and let that love wash over me while I reminded myself that there were plenty of people who genuinely care about me.

And suddenly, things didn’t hurt so much anymore.

 

What do you do when family or loved ones dismiss your health problems? Do you have any tips for me?

Ask Away Friday The Husband Swap

The last few weeks, a few of the AAF bloggers have had swaps celebrating the men behind the bloggers. When the idea was first discussed on the forum, Tracie and I pounced. Since we’re super close, there’s not much Tracie and I don’t know about each other. That’s not to say a swap between us wouldn’t be fun, it would be, and I imagine we’ll do a swap one of these days.

But our significant others? They just know what Tracie and I pass along, or what they glean from social media. We decided to have my fiance and Tracie’s husband swap questions for each other.

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So kick back in your best version of an Al Bundy pose and get ready to learn all about Scotty. Then hop on over to Tracie’s site to learn a little more about her husband, Thomas. Maybe you’ll see why Tracie and I feel we’ve nabbed a few of the last good men ;)

Thomas’s questions to Scotty (I should note that I’ve been instructed to copy and paste these questions EXACTLY as Thomas typed them. So I did, with the exception of adding my standard formatting.) -

1. What do you love most about Tia?

While it’s easy to say her smile or her eyes (because it’s true), I’d rather focus on a part of what makes her *her*. I truly love her generosity. She always tries to find ways to create pick-me-ups for friends, the time she spends helping others, all the things she does giving of herself. She is one of the most selfless people I know.

2. If it were possible to build a house and live successfully on any real planet or moon, besides Earth, which one would you pick, and why?
What about a fictional planet or moon? Example: Naboo or some place in the Degobah System

Well, given that Mars seems to be a “potential” destination for a manned mission (and perhaps way down the road an established colony) that would be my choice. I am so curious to find out if Martian soil would have the right chemical makeup to support growing crops. Obviously the issue of available water (or lack thereof) would come into play.

As for a fictional planet? It’s a toss-up between Rylos or the planet from Land of the Lost.

3. A day at the races, or a night at the opera?

Animal Crackers *and* The Game.

4. I’ll give you $500 to spend the night in A) the most haunted house, B) the most decrepit catacomb, or C) the deepest cave. Which one do you choose? Is $500 enough? (Oh, by the way, you can’t bring any weapons or lights!)

Seeing as how caves and catacombs give me the creeps, I’d probably have to choose the haunted house. But I would have picked that anyway. There’s a bit of a thrill in having to endure something like that, and really, if I can’t bring any weapons, it’s the safest environment. And I suppose $500 would be enough, but I’d gladly take more!

5. Which cartoon character best represents your personality? (For instance, I’m Foghorn Leghorn, with a little Fred Flintstone thrown in for good measure.)

I’m certainly a mix of several characters. There’s a little bit of Barney Rubble, Daffy Duck and all three Ed’s from “Ed, Edd, and Eddy” in my personality. There’s also a Canadian cartoon that I’ve caught on “over-the-air” broadcast TV called “Being Ian”. It’s about a kid who works in a music store, makes movies, and is always in a predicament. I think they based it on me!

6. What is the worst movie you have ever seen? (I’m sure it will be Mars Attacks, but Tracie is beating me about the head and shoulders yelling, “Dude, Where’s My Car!!” which I have never seen.)

First, I liked “Mars Attacks”. Second, I’ve never seen “Dude, Where’s My Car?” either. Third, I’ve seen many stinkers over the years due to watching my favorite TV show of all time, Mystery Science Theater 3000.

So, all that being considered, I’ll adjust the criteria to being a movie I paid money to watch in the theater. And that makes the answer simple: “The Day After Tomorrow” starring Dennis Quaid and Jake Gyllenhaal. I remember watching it and thinking, “this has to go somewhere, right?” It was so cliched; just bad.

7. Are you pro or against changing the name of the Washington Redskins?

If you had asked me 10-15 years ago, I bet my answer would have been different. But ask me now, and I will tell you I am *for* changing it. It’s extremely insensitive in this day and age, especially when matched with their logo. The same can be said for the Cleveland Indians.

At the risk of sounding like a hypocrite, but in the interest of full disclosure, I am also a lifelong Atlanta Braves fan. While I still own memorabilia with their highly inappropriate logo from the 1980’s, it’s not something I’m overly proud of. I would be alright with them eliminating to the tomahawk logo, or at least phase it out significantly.

8. What time period and geographic location would you choose to live in if you could go back in time? And, yes, you can bring your own Novocain, Penicillin, and a Physicians Desk Reference (because I’m not sharing mine).

While it’s not very long ago, I’ve always had a fondness for late 1920’s / early 1930’s Hollywood. The architecture, the climate, the “freshness”. I’ve always imagined a sense of hopefulness around that era.

If I had to choose something more than just 80-90 years in the past, I’d love to live in Europe in the mid to late 1700’s and experience the works of Mozart and Beethoven as they were presented for the first time.

9. Is it better to burn out or fade away?

Hey hey, my my… It is better to fade away, because burning out can be pretty absolute. I’d like to believe that you can fade away while still enjoying whatever you’re fading away from or with.

10. We have an ongoing disagreement in our family about the lyrics to Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer. Tracie has asked people this question to get them on her side before, and now it is my turn. When you get to the line, “Then all the reindeer loved him, and they shouted out with glee…..” what word do you say next? “Glee!” or “Yippee”? I am sure that you will get this correct and say GLEE! We should form an alliance. You are going to say glee, right?

Um… Honestly? Neither! I always said “Whee!” So, does that answer give me Switzerland-like neutrality?

Bonus Question: Which Oregon team would you least like to see Alabama stomp into the ground?

Easy… Oregon State! But I know that if they were to face Alabama, the Beavers would be thoroughly stomped. Sad, but true!

 

WOW! Well, as you can imagine, I’m over here sobbing and smiling like a goon at his answer to number 1. What a great bunch of questions, and of course, Scotty had some wonderful answers! Don’t forget to hop over to Tracie’s site and check out the other half of this swap.

Thank you Tracie and Thomas for such a fun post! Happy weekend!

Only The Good Die Young

My sister just lost a dear friend.

Her friend was young, really in the prime of her life. Or she should have been. Instead, she’d been battling cancer. This week, she lost the fight.

My sister called me in tears. As I tried to comfort her, she asked me, “Why is it so unfair? Why do the good ones die and the assholes get to live?”

Why, indeed.

It’s a question I’ve asked myself often in the year and a half since we lost Misty. Why must the good ones lose the fight? Why must the great hearts be snuffed out early, while the bad seeds continue on to cause so much heartbreak and pain? Why can’t life be more fair?

The truth is, I don’t have a good answer.

I don’t know why Misty didn’t get another forty years to share her smile and her love with the world. I don’t know why my sister’s friend had to lose her fight before she was able to marry and have babies. I don’t know why the good ones don’t get to live the longest lives.

All I could say to my sister, and all I can tell myself is this:

Maybe we lose the good ones so that we can be enraged by the injustice. Maybe we’re supposed to use that rage to become inspired. Maybe we’re supposed to use these losses to look at our own lives and evaluate where we are and where we want to be. Maybe we’re supposed to become inspired to live better lives, to become the good ones.

Maybe, just maybe, we have to lose someone great in order to understand just how precious and valuable our own lives are.

Truthful Tuesday: I Love The Rain

There is a brief little storm moving through our area and I could not be happier. The high temperatures have dipped back into the seventies and there is an intoxicating smell of freshness pouring in through my windows.

I’m reminded of one of my favorite songs from the nineties, Blind Melon’s No Rain.

And so while you do the bee girl dance, here are some other tidbits for this drizzly day.

*I’ve been working behind the scenes to make my blog a bit more professional. I’m now copyrighted (woot!) and have a legal/disclosure page, just in case.

*I’m also working on starting a new Saturday series for the blog where I feature guest posts. Interested? Email me at becominneurotic (at) gmail (dot) com.

*I’ve been approached to contribute to a health website. As I can share more information, I will, but suffice it to say I’m extremely flattered and very excited.

*It was recently discovered that Scotty (my fiance) and I have never been bowling together in our near five years together. This will hopefully be rectified for our birthdays next week. I may have to granny-ball it, but I’m totally looking forward to it!

*Our new upstairs neighbor is turning out to be very nice. He actually came down to apologize for making noise while putting together a shelf and working on his vacuum cleaner. It’s a bit of a novel feeling, having neighbors that aren’t complete asses. Also? My dog didn’t growl at him, which is a pretty good sign.

*I get to see my favorite lady tonight. I’m looking forward to her great hugs, some wonderful chatting and visiting, and to a fresh look. It never fails, a trip to Cathy’s leaves me with my heart full and feeling more human.

*While I’ll have posts up next week, I will technically be out. I’m having a medical procedure on Monday and will be taking the rest of the week to recover and rest up in order to be ready for my son’s arrival that weekend. Hopefully by next Friday we’ll also know whether or not insurance will cover the Remicade infusions my rheumatologist wants to start me on. Fingers crossed!

Ask Away Friday 90’s Throwback

Another week of summer is behind us, and hopefully it has taken these crazy high temperatures with it. I can handle some heat, but high 90’s with humidity is just a bit much here, especially without air conditioning.

Speaking of 90’s, it’s time for another round of Ask Away Friday, and Echo and I are doing a 90’s Throwback!

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Echo is the lady behind the Domain Of The Mad Mommy. You may remember we swapped a while back. This week found us both without a partner, so we decided to do something a little different and a lot fun. So pop in your favorite boy band CD, rock those big bangs, and brace yourselves while we travel back in time!

1. What was your favorite 90’s TV show?

This is hard, I had a bunch that I loved! It’s probably a tie between Boy Meets World and Saved By The Bell. Because apparently I liked imagining high school to be so much cooler than it actually was…

2. What 90’s TV show character did you most want to be?

I went through a phase where I really wanted to be Clarissa from Clarissa Explains It All. She had such a cool, eclectic room and kind of reminded me of Claudia from The Babysitters Club books. Who I also wanted to be.

3. What 90’s toy do you wish they would bring back?

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Though there seems to be many variations dating back to the 70’s, I had the Hasbro Fashion Plates and LOVED them! I entertained the wild idea that I was a great fashion designer just waiting to be discovered and had different sketches tacked all over my walls for ages!

4. What was the biggest 90’s fashion crime committed by you, and by the world at large?

Those bangs! Oh lordy, y’all! My mom has pictures with my bangs teased so high, with so much hairspray, I’m sure had someone lit a candle in a six foot radius of me, the whole room would have gone up in flames. And they were made all that much worse by the fact that they were permed!

5. What  is your favorite 90’s music video?

6. What 90’s movie did you watched repeatedly? 

As much as it pains me to say this… I watched Clueless over and over and over again. Does it redeem me if I add that Pulp Fiction is the 90’s movie I now watch over and over?

7. What is your least favorite 90’s song that everyone else loved?

Hanson’s MMMBop. I still know every mother-lovin word, but gah! I hated that song and it was EVERYWHERE.

8. Who was your 90’s boy celeb crush?

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Rider Strong aka Shawn from Boy Meets World. My original bad boy crush. *le sigh*

9. What was your favorite 90’s snack that you want back?

I know they still make them, but somehow they don’t taste the same. And I haven’t had one in ages… Ding Dongs.

10. What is your favorite 90’s memory?

Though my relationship with my mom was strained in those years (even more so than it is now), she and my step-dad took me to my uncle’s church camp one summer and I got to go white water rafting. I was terrified (I’ve never properly learned how to swim, I kinda do a panicked doggy paddle. So glamorous.), but it was so exhilarating to face a fear. And it was so much fun! Definitely one of the coolest things I’ve ever done.

Thanks for such a great swap Echo! Y’all be sure to pop over to her site and see all of her 90’s favorites. Who knows? We may have some similar answers :)

If you’d like to join in on the Ask Away Friday fun, join their Facebook group. You’ll meet some awesome peeps, I promise you won’t be disappointed. Or if you have a question for me that I haven’t answered yet, leave it in the comments and I’ll add it as a bonus question next time!

Always, I Keep Fighting

Sometimes I wake up and everything hurts.

Sometimes the pain is too much and I want to give up.

Sometimes I want to give the reins over to someone else. Let them worry about all the new symptoms, the pain levels, and whether or not I’m absorbing all my medications and vitamins.

Sometimes I want to close my eyes and just forget it all. Forget that I’m sick, forget that I have responsibilities and obligations, forget that I have to keep fighting.

Sometimes I don’t want to fight. I don’t want to research new treatments and better diets. I don’t want to push through the pain just to manage a few minutes of exercise. I don’t want to go to yet another doctor’s appointment, I don’t want to give them more blood, I don’t want to pee in yet another cup.

But sometimes…

Sometimes I wake up and there is a doggy kissing my swollen hands.

Sometimes the pain is just bearable.

Sometimes my fiance rubs my back and kisses my forehead and I know no matter what, everything will work out.

Sometimes I close my eyes and can let the stress go while my favorite song plays in the background.

Sometimes I get an email, a phone call, a text that reminds me I have a purpose, not an obligation.

And that’s why I keep fighting. For my fiance and our doggy, for my son. For all the people who’s lives I’ve touched and who’ve touched mine. For all the others out there like me, who have days where they wonder why they bother.

For me and my dreams, I keep fighting.

I’m Grateful For Happiness

I woke up feeling pretty puny this morning. I didn’t sleep well due to pain and an upset tummy which means I’m more than a little crabby from lack of good rest. Rather than allow myself to sit and wallow, I’m celebrating all the things that made me happy recently. You should join me!

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I’m grateful for:

*Thunderstorms that break up a two week run of high temperatures.

*Being able to be the bearer of much awaited good news.

*My fiance playing live music again. And the wonderfully supportive band mates.

*Friends who drive 40 minutes one way to come and support my fiance.

*The 80’s music channel on my TV that lets me reminisce while I write.

*Blogger friends who pass along tips and help.

*Doctors and nurses who call to check on me, who take the time to fully explain recent lab work, who go out of their way to ease my fears and worries.

*My fiance’s employer who has bestowed so much kindness and understanding on us.

*Friends who help plan my wedding via text message and Pinterest when they can’t be right here with me.

*Phone calls with my kiddo where he tells me how excited he is to come see us.

*My parents, who are currently spoiling my son with once in a lifetime opportunities. I may be slightly jealous that I never got to go to Disney or Six Flags as a kid, but I’m so happy my son gets to make these memories with his grandparents.

*Getting to share about Spoons 4 Spoonies and The Spoon Theory with new people, especially when they’re open and receptive. It warms my heart to know I’m doing my part to raise awareness and push back at the stigmas.

*Dawnie, who first told me what a spoonie was, and helped me to put into words my struggle. She also gives me strength every day to keep putting one foot in front of the other, to keep living the best possible life, in spite of whatever struggles get thrown my way.

 

What are you grateful for today? Link up in the comments and lets make Monday just a little brighter!

Ask Away Friday Vol. 7

How in the world is it mid-July already?!

In a matter of weeks it will be my birthday and my son will be here with us. While I’m looking forward to his visit, I’m a little sad that 2014 is racing by. So I’m just going to ignore it and focus on today. Today is Friday and that means it’s time for another swap with another awesome blogger.

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This week I swapped with Rabia from The Liebers. Rabia is a sweet mama who blogs about her family, her life, and everything in between. I love that she describes herself as an open book, as I’ve often said the same thing about myself. After you’ve read this, please hop over to her page and see what her answers to my questions are!

And now, on to the show!

1. If you could choose to stay one age forever, what age would you choose?

I know it’s a bit self-serving, but I’d choose 28. That was the last year before I got sick, and though that year had its own struggles, I was healthy enough to deal with them. While my illnesses have made me a stronger person, I’m not above wishing I had never gotten sick.

2. What is your most prized possession?

It’s so hard to choose just one! I have a handful of things that are special to me for different reasons. My engagement rings (all 3!), a bracelet my adopted niece made me, the cards and drawings from my son, my spoon necklace from Misty, a thank you letter from a dear little girl, my brother’s dog tag, the china I inherited from my fiance’s late mother.

3. Tell the world your opinion on: ghosts, aliens, the Loch Ness Monster, and Bigfoot.

It might seem fanciful, but I like to believe in the unknown. I like the possibility that we don’t know EVERYTHING in the universe. There is so much that science hasn’t yet grasped, who am I to say whether there are mermaids or Nessie?

4. I see that you like to read. I’ve been on quite a reading kick lately too. Who are your favorite authors?

Diana Gabaldon, Laurell K. Hamilton, Dan Brown, John Green, Sandra Brown- to name a few.

5. Tell me your five biggest pet peeves.

Oh boy! Okay- People who smack when they eat. Bugs, insects of any kind. Rude people. Inside out dirty socks. People who insist they know more about my health than I do, no matter how well-meaning they are.

6. What is your favorite room in your house? (Bonus points for a picture)

My favorite room in any home is the kitchen. It’s the heart of the home, and where I’m most comfortable. My kitchen may be small and less than ideal (yay apartment living!),  but it’s MINE and it’s where I cook up yummy treats for my fiance. It’s where I find my groove.

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Pumpkin Cookies from my very own kitchen! (click photo for recipe)

7. What is your most vivid childhood memory?

What an interesting question! I have a few that stick out, but probably the most vivid is when I cracked my chin open. I was just barely six years old, and had fallen off the top bunkbed deep asleep. I don’t know when I woke, but I remember opening my eyes and seeing a bright red spot on the white t-shirt of the man picking me up off the floor. (He was a friend of my parents who was over playing cards with them that night.) You know how I always say when I do something medical, I do it BIG? That little fall out of bed resulted in a cracked jaw, 1 1/2 broken teeth, a split upper lip, a torn bottom lip that sliced all the way past my chin, and more stitches than I can remember. I lived off milkshakes for weeks.

8. Would you rather line dance or ballroom dance?

I’d love to learn to ballroom dance! There’s something so classy about it, and I feel like it’s something you might always use.

9. If you could go 100 years into the past or 100 years into the future and spend a week, which would you choose and what would you do?

Well, ala my favorite book series, The Outlander, I’d love to go into the past. There’s something about the corseted fashions that I think would be cool. Besides, I wouldn’t want to go forward and come back knowing what will happen.

10. Do you have a favorite charity or non-profit that you support? Tell us about it.

Most of you know I’m the co-founder of Spoons 4 Spoonies. Though we’re not yet a non-profit, we have a mission that I very much believe in. S4S was started to honor my friend Misty, who lost her battle with chronic illness at just 40 years old. Misty was a sweetheart who made everyone smile. Cindy and I wanted a way to spread that smile to others like us, who live with chronic illness and pain. We took our inspiration from Christine’s Spoon Theory, and I started hand-decorating spoons with messages of hope and love.

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We send these spoons to people all over the US who are fighting some battle- RA, MS, cancer, IBD, and many others. These spoons are a way to let people know that while they may feel isolated due to their illness, they’re not alone. We’re here and we understand. It’s a powerful message.

Whew! Rabia sure had some great questions for me! If you’d like to catch up on past swaps, click here. If you have a question for me that I haven’t answered yet, leave it in the comments and I’ll add it in as a bonus question next time! I hope you all have a great weekend, I’ll be spending mine trying not to melt!

Truthful Tuesday: Summer Is Here

With temperatures reaching the nineties this week, summer is most definitely in full swing. Normally summer doesn’t start for us until my son gets here for his visit, but the weather has other plans this year.

Since the heat is bearing down and it’s not even noon yet, my brain is naturally fried. So here are a few truths to hold you over until I can think straight again.

*I was not made for extreme temperatures.

*I had forgotten how much I love A Walk In The Clouds until this morning.

*It’s always been a dream of mine to stomp grapes, ever since I saw Lucy do it in Pretty Woman.

*My rheumatologist wants to start me on Remicade infusions. Now we wait to see if my insurance will approve it.

*For my birthday this year, I’ll be getting a colonoscopy and endoscopy. I was kinda hoping for a mani/pedi instead.

*I’ve always dreamed of being serenaded.

*I ran into an old “friend” this past weekend. While we had a nice chat, catching up, my heart remembers all the hurt she and another caused me. And I’m hesitant to put myself out there again.

*The TENS unit I received has been working wonders on my lower back pain. I HIGHLY recommend them.

*My fiance never ceases to amaze me with the depth of his love and care for me. I am so very lucky that he has stuck by my side through everything.